Gay Marriage Debate

This week, I joined the group B.G.L.S.A. at my school. This stands for Bisexual Gay Lesbian Straight Alliance. It is basically a gay rights advocacy group. I am so happy to be a part of it! Through the group I learned that there will be a debate about gay marriage rights at our student union in a few weeks.

I definitely plan to attend this debate. I have never witnessed a debate on this topic. However, I can’t imagine that it will go very well. I can only imagine one basic argument that each side will make.

Before I list those arguments, let me name the sides here: one is us, the Allies. The people who want everyone in our nation to have basic human rights and think gay marriage should be legal YESTERDAY. Then there are the homophobes. Yes, I want to use the most derogatory word possible to describe these people who are bringing oppression to a group that they don’t particularly like. I swear, homophobes are #2 on my hate list after pedophiles. They just infuriate me with their ignorance.

Anyway, what can each of the sides use as their argument? I feel like the allies will say “it is common sense that everyone should have basic human rights”. Ok, yes, clearly. Done. I imagine the homophobes will say “It’s not in the Bible” or some of that shit. You’re right, it’s not. But since when do the contents of the Bible dictate the laws for our country? Never. Argument over.

If it’s so mind-numbingly simple, why the fuck do we not have gay marriage yet? I do not understand.

Maybe the homophobes will say that it is a choice to be gay. Well, first of all, it isn’t. There is science to back that up, research has been done on gay people to determine what physically in their brain causes their orientation. Also, fucking common sense. No one would CHOOSE to be in a group of people that is blatantly discriminated against across the world and is not even allowed basic rights in our country. No one would choose that life. It is not a choice.

Maybe the homophobes will say that they are afraid children who see happy gay couples walking down the street will then themselves choose to be gay. This is why we must stamp out homosexuality. Again, no. It is not a choice. A person cannot choose to be gay no more than they can choose to be short or tall.

This reminds me of a short anecdote: when my sister was little, she had this very very best friend named Lisa. They were nearly the same age and our families were neighbors so they spent every moment of every day together. You know what my three year old sister told my mom one day? “I love Lisa so much, I’m going to marry her!”

Now was my mother appalled at this? Did she think her three-year-old daughter had been influenced by the media to turn into a lesbian? Absolutely fucking not. My sister and I were taught that a marriage was a union between two adults who love each other. This, I strongly believe, should be the official definition of marriage around the world. My sister thought, oh, I love my friend, therefore I will marry her when we are adults. Flawless three year old logic. Of course, a dozen years later she was well established in her man-loving heterosexual ways.

I think (and this is just a guess) that homophobes’ main argument against gay marriage is that the Bible says it is wrong. My boyfriend likes to use the “traditional marriage” argument against this point, that is, picking other mentions of marriage from the Bible that include polygamy, rape, and concubines and stating that while the Bible does condemn gay marriage, it also allows for/encourages all these other crazy marriage arrangements that we do not accept today. He says that Christians cannot cherry pick which type of marriage they think is best and condemn all other forms.

While I agree with him, this is not the way I like to come back to the “it’s not in the Bible” argument. To this point I would say, so what? Just because it is written in a book that you like does not mean one can use that opinion to control the lives of everyone else around you. Not everyone agrees with that very antiquated view of the world.

What if I decided that in my religion it was blasphemous to have red hair? Would that mean that I could oppress all the redheads in the country and not let them get married? Obviously not. So why do homophobes think it is ok for them to do that with gay people???

I think what it really boils down to is that homophobes really just think gay sex is gross. Ok! That’s fine! Have your own opinion! You know, when I first learned about gay sex as a kid, I was grossed out too. But you know what happened next? I grew the fuck up. I’m sorry you homophobes haven’t matured. And anyway, even if you still think gay sex is all icky cooties, this is just another opinion. And opinions don’t give you the grounds to discriminate against people!

I had better stop writing, I am getting too angry.

Fuck homophobes, peace out.

Remembering September 11th

I only have a few distinct memories from that day. I was in the fourth grade. The school year was just really getting really started. It was a beautiful Georgia day out, and I was loving my 9 year old life.

None of the teachers told us what was going on, but all the kids knew something was amiss. I don’t remember what time of day I left school, but it must have been the morning. Everyone was getting pulled out by their parents. Though I thought it was strange, I was just happy to get to go home and play.

When my sister and I (she was in first grade) walked out of the school, we found both our parents waiting for us. This is when I realized that something must have been really serious. Our parents had been divorced for over four years and we never encountered them together.

I asked what was going on. Perhaps our parents told us that there had been an accident. I don’t remember what happened until we got to my father’s house and they turned on the TV. We were just in time to see one of the hundreds of replays of the second plane crashing into the South Tower.

I immediately started crying. It was a horror, a tragedy that was happening right now on American soil. My mother told us that all of our family was safe. Nobody worked in that area of the city.

I hardly watched for sixty seconds before I asked them to turn them off. Even at my young age I completely understood the magnitude of the situation. I realized that I was witnessing history. Future generations would read about this day in school, and kids might ask me what it was like to live this day. At the same time, I felt guilty realizing that events like this happen all around the world but I never seemed to care about those events, only this one. I still feel guilty about that to this day.

Later that day I did see footage of the towers falling. I cannot imagine what it could have been like to be near that attack. I was far away physically, but near in spirit as all of us were.

Of course, the WTC towers were not the only buildings to be attacked. There was also a crash at the pentagon and a final plane that missed its target but still crashed to the ground, killing its passengers. We lost almost 3,000 lives to the events of that day.

Today I am enjoying the most perfect weather I have ever witnessed in South Carolina. There is not a cloud in the sky. But I’m confident there is not a hijacked plane up there, either. The horrors of September 11th did have one silver lining: they brought us together as a nation. I hope that on this anniversary, we can put our election squabbles aside and remember that we are all proud Americans.

The Olympics

I know this post is coming a little late, about eight and a half hours before the closing ceremonies of the XXX Olympiad began, but I’d just like to say: I really love the Olympics.

Summer, Winter, Para, Special, I’ll watch it all! I really loved the London Games this year. I’ll admit I thought the Beijing games were better in almost every aspect, but not by much. It was amazing to watch Michael Phelps blast away the record for most medals ever won by an Olympic athlete! It was fun to laugh at Ryan Lochte’s stupid quips and his ridiculous sapphire, diamond, and ruby grill. It was stunning to see McKayla Maroney’s vaults, tearjerking to see the displays of sportsmanship that occurred among these international athletes.

And of course it’s rather nice to see USA get like a bajillion medals and “win the Olympics”.

A couple of my surprise favorites from these games were:

  • Weightlifting: I first decided to watch weightlifting when I heard about Team USA lifter Sarah Robles. She posted on reddit and has a great blog. She was in the final weight class which didn’t lift until a week into the games. For the first week I would watch other weight classes in both men’s and women’s weightlifting. It was awesome! Sarah Robles ended up coming in 7th in the weight class, which is so awesome for an American! We are not at all dominant in that sport. She will go far in Rio.
  • Archery: I watched less of this than weightlifting and did not have a specific favorite to watch. Again, we are not dominant in this sport. But, we did get men’s team silver! I did enjoy watching Archery whenever it was on.
  • Usain Bolt: I already knew Bolt was a great runner, but I was worried that he might be a cocky asshole like Ryan Lochte. Not so! Bolt is a great philanthropist and has a wonderful sense of humor and sportsmanship. I love this guy!
  • Oscar Pistorius: Up until I watched an NBC biospot about Oscar, all he was to me was the controversial paralympic runner. After watching the biospot, though, I learned that he is a really great, nice, smart guy and genuinely a talented sprinter regardless of his physical differences. I was cheering for him in the track and field events, even though I was worried about the controversies that would arise if he won a medal. Well, he didn’t make it to the semifinal of the 400m, and South Africa came in like last place in the 4×400. Crisis averted. However, his bib-exchanging with James was one of the most touching things I’ve seen and I think it really showed what the Olympics is all about.
  • Rhythmic Gymnastics: ok, so this isn’t a surprise really because I’ve always been a fan of rhythmic gymnastics, another sport in which America is not dominant (we didn’t even have a team; we sent one individual competitor but I didn’t even see her!). However, rhythmic gymnastics came on while Jacob and I were entertaining friends, and everyone really liked it! We muted the TV and put on dubstep… Let me tell you, it looked really cool to dubstep. The surprise for me with rhythmic gymnastics this year was that I was able to enjoy it with friends. Usually I am watching the Olympics all alone, as no one seems to be as interested as I am 😦

I sure do hope they stream the Paralympics online. I will watch as much as I can when I’m not in school! 15 days until the Para games and 543 days until the Winter games in Sochi!!

To end, here is a pic of me holding one of the torches from the 1996 Olympic Games in Atlanta.


Supreme Court ruling on Obamacare

I can’t believe how angry some people are getting about this Supreme Court decision. the Supreme Court is made up of like literally the nine smartest people in the country. They know what they’re doing. The fact that this decision passed only 5-4 also shows that they are as divided as the American public when it comes to this issue. Providing healthcare for a huge country is not an easy task and there is no one clear and perfect solution. Both sides have their ups and downs. Don’t get upset, though, America is still the greatest country in the world and everything will be fine whether or not we have Obama care. Personally, I’m happy to pay any tax if it benefits the American people in some way. Now everyone please shut up unless you are a Supreme Court justice and you have read all 193 pages of the ruling and you understand all the intricacies of the American government in its current state.