I support plural/poly marriage!

He-hey! Let’s follow up my last controversial post with another one!

I was pleased to see the following NYT Opinion article this morning: Is Polygamy Next?

I’m glad to see this on the internet because I’ve been thinking about it for the past few years while same-sex marriage was on the table.

I know there are many people in this world who do not like the idea of same-sex marriage because it seems weird, foreign, maybe even icky. I am so lucky that I do not feel this way about same-sex marriage.

At the same time I must admit that I DO have some of these negative concepts about plural marriage. As in: I can’t imagine sharing my partner with another person/people. It seems weird, foreign, and maybe even icky! (Any poly people that read this pleaseeee do not take offense I love you I just need to include this in order to make my point)

BUT I am a rational person and I realize that my opinion on what is weird or not literally does not matter! Other people have different opinions! There are plenty of things that are legal in our country that are outside my comfort zone/are things I would not do. That is ok. It does not change the fact that plural marriage:

  1. takes place between/amongst
  2. consenting
  3. adult
  4. human beings
  5. and doesn’t infringe on the rights of others.

Anything* that fits those criteria is A-OK with me and should be legal in the United States of America! I will support the legalization of plural marriage because everyone in our country should be able to marry whomever makes them happy be that one person or more than one person. I’m so glad same-sex marriage is legal now because it fits those criteria and so does plural marriage.

*I’m sure there are exceptions blah blah you know what I mean

TL;DR If you support same-sex marriage then logically you should also support plural marriage because otherwise that’s cherry-picking 🙂

3 thoughts on “I support plural/poly marriage!”

  1. I agree with you – with one small objection. In traditional marriage and same sex marriage it’s a contract between equals. ” I pledge myself to you in exactly the same way you pledge yourself to me”. It’s an equal partnership.
    If plural marriage is to be made legal, it is my conviction (as a believer in democracy and human rights) that a polygamist union is only to be legal if ALL people in the union agree that ALL spouses in the polygamist union have EXACTLY THE SAME RIGHT TO BE POLYGAMOUS. If a husband chooses to become polygamous e.g., he would have to use a marriage contract that also allows his wives to marry other men. And of course, anybody who marries a second spouse must have consent from the first spouse.

    1. This might be ignorant of me but…

      I’ll leave the polygamists themselves and the lobbyists to work out the details, I just know I’ll vote to support it when it comes up in legislation 😛

      1. Up until some years ago I would have agreed with you! I’m somewhat of a libertarian myself, and do not condone arbitrary paternalistic lawmaking. However, that was until I discovered 2 things. 1: In islam the consent of the first wife, or existing wives is not needed for a husband to marry another. 2. In islam, a husband isn’t even required to inform the wife/wives he has that he marries another. It happens quite often that muslim women find out their husbands are married to other women simply when their husbands die and strange women surface with children, claiming inheritance, or when they find they have HIV and the husband has to admit that he has other wives.
        This “no consent is required, no information is required” rule in islam denies women basic human rights, to safeguard their health, to make choices, to make informed decisions about their economy (imagine what it feels like to put everything you earn into the family business to make sure you can afford to put your children through college and then suddenly have your husband die and find that since the firm is in his name, and he has three other wives and 8 unknown children who are now all entitled to as much inheritance as you and your children!) et.c.
        This is why I am no longer able to say, that this should be left to the polygamists. I hope you understand, and aren’t offended.

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